Category Archives: Thinking/Considering

LACK OF EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT

It started out to be a way to bring into prospective what is most important in life and relationships, but ended up being more disturbing as a whole about a younger generation of men.  The general question, is if you are far away from everything that you know in life what do you think you would miss the most?  Would it be a car, movie, game system, places to eat or someone that is in your family which would you miss the most?  The first person gave a simple answer; he said everything and not one thing in particular.  This was like saying that everything, including a human being that is thought of as a loved one, is equal and there is no real emotional attachment to anything over another.  After a while of thinking about it, I asked another young man in the family and got basically the same answer.

This reminded me of a recent incident, where my daughter asked her soon to be ex-husband whether he was at the house because of her and his sons or simply because he had no where else to be? His answer was because he did not have anywhere else to be.

Three young men of about the same age and all lacking an emotional attachment to those who they should have this attachment to. That the human beings were of no more importance then the objects they also enjoy spending time with.  A wife or a child is not more important to them than a good cup of coffee or an enjoyable game to play.  Simply something that they enjoy spending time doing or having around at the moment.  They boil down the only reason to be in any relationship as a convenience of the moment.   They aren’t saying their loved one would be missed, but rather that they could be replaced and are not a special selection among any other who would also perform the same functions as someone to talk to or be around.

The ability to have emotional attachment gives us the ability to see others as special or even fellow human beings. That goes beyond those outside of our family and in a sense our own value as human.  Lacking it is what enables everything from theft to mass murder like in the case of Hitler.  If this had been shown in only one individual it is a matter of concern but in three in the same generation and from different families is alarming and makes me wonder if it is a symptom of the generation?

Emotional attachment is a key benchmark of being a human being and one of the foundations of the very concept of humanity.

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What to do, what to do, oh, what to do?



Since Barack Obama took office on January 20, 2009, he has received a barrage of criticism from the Right regarding his priorities. Some is well-intended and some is obviously just criticism for the sake of criticizing. I have often said that if Barack Obama cured cancer tomorrow, the Republicans would condemn him for not doing it today.

Some recent commentary from the Right has got me to thinking (yes, that is fairly rare on both counts) just what should have been Barack’s priorities coming into office and, on this date, what should his priorities be moving forward?

Obviously, when President Obama took office, he had a full plate of serious issues to handle – an economy in the tank, two wars, the Bush legacy of disaster, Gay Right’s issues, Wall Street corruption and not the least of all, filling a cabinet and appointing people to positions critical to his administration.

Of course, hindsight is 20/20, but all of us indulge in looking at the past. Looking at the future is a bit more difficult, but I have it on good authority that all Pop Bloggers are equipped with the ability to see into the future with uncanny accuracy.

So, my fellow low-life liberals and progressives, what should he have done and what should he do now?

(Feel free to toss in some of your patented humor for good measure!)

William Stephenson Clark

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WHERE DO YOUR THOUGHTS AND PRECONCEIVED NOTIONS COME FROM.

What do you think and why?

Each and every individual takes in information and processes it with preset concepts and learned patterns. Some of it is the influences of those you love and or respect having heard them express their opinions on any given subject.  Those opinions become implanted in a child’s mind and become a set answer to some questions.

Often it is the same sex parent who is the one who set these preconceived answers to question or subjects.  Generally these issues, subjects and opinions are related to that genders impact on their lives.  Opinions of the opposite sex, the work place and what ever interactions that gender has with the world outside themselves. And that is often imposed on a child of their gender but the child is not isolated from the opinion and thought processes of the opposite sex parent.

Some opinions are isolated and the other view is also instill they may intertwine in places to make a opinion based on that intertwining.

The opinion of friends can be impacted upon the child and group thought or opinion may gain standing within the individual. All these early opinions and processes can be carried into adulthood and to the political thought processes.  This may have an effect in determining the party affiliation of the individual and their leaning on issues.  With the passage of time and the impact of a given issue these opinions and stances may change and drive the individual to change their opinion sometime to one that is geometrically opposite of their long held stances.

Life can be a factor in this, such as the pro-choicer having a child of their own and suddenly the issue is no longer a abstract subject to them. Likewise the Pro-lifer may have an incident that causes them to see the other side of the issue.  Such life happenstances often influence the opinion and stances of the individual.  The Pro-firearms having a family member killed in a sense-less street crime and the like.

But along with preset ideas and opinions, life has a way of forming the individuals opinion, perceptions and answers to issues and questions.  This all contributes to the political opinions and how a person reacts to the issues.

I will use a recent occurrence to give example to this, the mine explosion in West Virginia.  As I take note of the reactions to this occurrence, I notice the differences between people of different leanings.  From outrage at this was allowed to happen and more was not done to prevent it.  To the focus should be on the effect not just on the family but the unspoken effect on the general public as a whole.

And where partisan distrust and preconceived thought of the reactions come in.  It is a preconceived thought that the more Liberal will see this as a cause to force changes in the work environment. An incident as a poster child for attacking big business and an example of how the common worker is put upon and devalued by employers.  The counter preconceived thought is that the Conservative will defend and support the mine owner.  As if not for them then every worker would not have a income and their family would starve.  So that the Conservatives will not care about the deaths of the miners, it is simply the price to be paid.

We often come at the other side from our preconceived ideas and thoughts of the other side.  Thinking that it is not logic or reality that influences them it is their preconceived ideology that governs them.

Another example is thinking someone of a different race will act and react according to preconceived notions. Blacks will be lazy, Mexicans will be shiftless and Jews will cheat you in business.  Anything counter is dismissed and over looked rather then to rethink the preconceived notion.  Or taken as a exclusion to the general rule, an isolated happening so it is meaningless.

tstbgop

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StoryCorps Illustrates the Mother/Son Bond

StoryCorps Illustrates the Mother/Son Bond

From this short video exchange between a mother and her son is a lesson for all of us, not just mothers, not just parents, but for all our interactions with other humans.  We really should spend the time to find the best in each person, or at least spend less time finding the least.

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iggydonnelly

3/16/1954 — 5/2/2010

He was a dedicated father, son, brother, and friend.  He loved music and relaxed with his guitar.  He loved people, he fought for the common man, and he will be sorely missed.  When the Prairie Pops blog began it was both because Steven wanted a civil place to hold discussions and because there were rumors the local newspaper might be facing financial problems and shut down.  He made sure there was a place he could find his friends if that happened.  His friends were important to him.  And we all know we’re better people because he called us friends.

This is the description Steven wrote of himself when he began this blog in March of 2009 —

iggydonnelly borrowed his nickname from Ignatius Donnelly, a prairie populist who started the People’s Party in 1892.  The original Donnelly was a senator from Minnesota.  The people in the Populist party were against the rich and for the common man.  In 1892, Ignatius Donnelly said… “The fruits of the toil of millions are boldly stolen to build up colossal fortunes, unprecedented in the history of the world, while their possessors despise the republic and endanger liberty.”

The blogger donnelly has worked in various Kansas Community Mental Health Centers since February 1st, 1982.  The blogger has worked at his current place of employment since 1992.  Donnelly is a student and sometimes adjunct instructor of psychology.  The blogger donnelly is an advocate of progressive politics and free thought.  Donnelly has never raised any corn, but he has raised hell if there was no one around to watch, that is.  This author believes that same sex marriage is a civil rights issue and is a supporter of this cause.  In his spare time donnelly conducts psychological research that combine his interests in “positive psychology” and treatment planning for persons with severe and persistent mental illness.  He has one teenage son and one teenage daughter, who both with the aid of many heavy sighs, have learned to tolerate their father.

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The Most Influential Person of the Decade???

The Washington Post has offered up this group of names for nomination of the most influential person of the decade.  Who among these nominees had the greatest influence on shaping the decade? – is the criteria… The WashPo  will announce their results today.  The Choices:

George W. Bush, Timothy Giethner, Lance Armstrong, Paris Hilton, Dick Cheney, Ben Bernanke, L. Page & S. Brin, Hillary Clinton, Osama bin Laden, Barack Obama, Steve Jobs, J.K. Rowling, Hu Jintao, Jon Stewart, Mark Zuckerman, or Al Gore.

Prairie Pops, who wins your vote and why?  Is anyone else embarrassed to confess they don’t recognize all of the names on the list?  Do you have someone else to nominate – tell us who and why?

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Which side are you on: What labor day is all about.

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