Creating An Anti-Bullying Culture

This is happening at some of our nation’s schools!  Such an exciting and badly-needed lesson to be learned.  There is an excellent article at NPR titled, “Hit Back At Bullies?  Not At This School.”

The concepts are simple: Don’t bully, help those who are being bullied and tell an adult what’s going on. Pearre tries to reinforce the idea that the bully doesn’t act alone. The community can take away the bully’s power by refusing to cheer him on, by telling an adult, or perhaps the ultimate step: stepping in to help the victim.

“Sometimes they are not mature enough to make that step yet,” Pearre says. “But we’re just as happy if they let us know, and we can intervene.”

In our world of tomorrow, these children will be our leaders.  We need them badly!  Today, it seems, we have too many adults who are not mature enough to handle a bullying culture.  “A Little Child Will Lead Them.”

Watching this class, any former middle schooler might recoil and think, “It’s wrong to rat on friends.”

“So if someone comes up to you and like, punches you, or does something physically violent, how do you defend yourself? Do you just stand there and watch?”

Don’t let it get to that point, kids are told. Don’t resort to violence, because it’s wrong. And, as Pearre explains, it will land you in even bigger trouble.


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9 responses to “Creating An Anti-Bullying Culture

  1. WSClark

    When my son was in fifth grade, he got kicked out of school for beating the crap out of a kid that was bullying a friend of his.

    I didn’t punish him.

    • When my daughter was in school, she was punished in front of the whole class for “tattling” on a bully who ripped her coat. The next day she walked straight up to that boy who had been bullying her for weeks and did what I told her to do, without any provocation from him. She hit him where it hurts. And it hurt him very much.

      She was punished at school, but needless to say, not at home. He didn’t bother her ever again after that and a couple of years later, they even became friends.

  2. indypendent

    From both your stories, do I get the impression that school officials somehow condone bullying?

    I grew up in the 50’s and 60’s. In those days, the bully was the one that got punished – not the friends of the victim or the one that tattled.

    Bullies are nothing but cowards and Paula is right – what they need is to get hit where they hurt the most.

    In the case of these Republicans making such a fuss and acting like spoiled brats, take away their government subsidies to their businesses and/or their personal tax credits. To these people, the only thing that matters to them is money.

    • My experience happened probably ten to fifteen years ago. I think things have changed in the schools. I think that one good change that came after so many of these school shooting incidents is that schools started to realize that they could no longer turn their heads to the bullying that was going on.

      At the same time as this experience I had with my daughter and in the same elementary school, there was a boy in her grade that was picked on every single day, multiple times a day. I had heard some talk from my daughter and her friends and had given them lectures about treating people with dignity and respect. But then one day I went to school to have lunch with my daughter and stuck around for awhile on the playground. Nobody would sit by this kid in the cafeteria. Cruel remarks were made about him by the children that were at his table. I saw food thrown at him, but no other adult saw it but me and I didn’t see who threw it. The other children laughed and this kid acted like it was an everyday occurrence. When asked, my daughter and her friends explained that nobody liked this kid because he is fat and dirty and stupid. I went to the principal and thought that something would be done.

      What she did, I learned a couple of years later from the boy’s mother, was to send a note home to the parents to say that he is dirty and his clothes are disheveled and he needed to practice better hygiene. THAT is how it was handled. The children learned that it was okay to treat someone like an animal with complete disrespect (like the Nazis treated the Jews, is what it reminded me of) and what that boy learned was that he was less than nothing. I wanted to string that principal up by the neck, but she had retired before I found out about the way she handled the issue.

      The things that the children didn’t know and that I suspect were ignored in the school by teachers and principal alike, were that this boy and his sister were both verbally and emotionally abused by their father. Their mother was likewise abused. Called names and told that they were worthless, stupid, fat, ugly, lazy, etc. I sat for an hour at this kid’s sixth grade graduation lunch across from his mother and father and listened to him belittle and pick at her and their son the entire time. He was a POS. No wonder that little boy had hygiene and self-esteem problems! Why didn’t the school see it? I say they turned a blind eye to it.

      • indypendent

        How sad to think of even one child that had to go through that. But just think of that one child multiplied by thousands or millions across our country.

        And now we have such a shallow, materialistic, celebrity obsessed, reality t.v. society that somehow values when the strong can out-manuever the weak to win some damn prize.

        And then throw in all the emphasis on sex and violence in our society – it just makes me want to vomit.

        When Social Conservative Republicans rant about the loss of morals in our country – I just want to scream – and where are the churches in this? Most of the mega churches today are right up there cheering on the strong to out-maneuver the weak to get the damn prize – the money!

        No wonder we are seeing such problems in our country. We value the wrong things in life.

        Exactly when did common decency and common courtesy go out of style?

        Exactly when did it become okay to treat others like a POS?

        Exactly when did it become acceptable to be so hateful and mean-spirited?

      • “Exactly when did it become acceptable to be so hateful and mean-spirited?”

        The 1980’s.

      • There was an initiative here in Charlotte to implement an anti-bullying policy. After far too much debate it was implemented, over the objections of the crowd that protecting GLBT kids was “promoting a homosexual agenda.”

        Apparently “leave me alone” is an agenda.

        When did it become acceptable to be hateful and mean spirited? Sadly, I think the classics never go out of fashion.

  3. indypendent

    Paula – you may be right – the Reagan years (1980’s) were certainly good for the most greedy in our midst.

    I remember how Reagan emptied out the mental institutions and then how the prisons began filling up with guess what – people with mental problems – and the prisons were not equipped to handle that population.

    But didn’t Reagan look good when he cleared out all that evil government taking care of the mentally ill? It was nothing but a shell game.

    Reagan did more damage to this country than any foreign traitor could even think of doing.

    I remember reading in the Bible about all the false prophets that will be in power – and I’m convinced Ronald Reagan was the start of alot of them. Unfortunately, these are the same ones who profess to be so morally superior because they are God’s favorites.